Horse to Harlequin 1

Seeking counsel…
René: As a kid, Giles, strong as a horse he was. Interested in everything from engines to pianos. But now at 45, he’s changed. 
Li: I hear you. In Chinese thinking, when a person changes suddenly in middle age, we ask what current has been flowing underneath for many years. 
René: That is exactly what troubles me. It feels like a dam bursting. I spent a lot of time with him as a kid. We built models, learned piano, repaired lawn mowers, went hiking. Full of energy and curiosity he was. 
Li: Perhaps he felt a duty. Sometimes a talented child learns to perform many roles for others and forgets which one belongs to himself. 
René: Yet there was a turning point. At twelve, he hit puberty. Soon after, he spent a year in the United States with his aunt and uncle. They had four boys. He went to school there. Even went flying with pilots at the local aerodrome. When he returned, something had shifted—harder to read, more private. 
Li: Ah. Twelve is already a gate of transformation. A new country, new household, many male energies around him, new language, new social codes. In Chinese terms, too much change while the spirit is still forming can create hidden knots. 
René: Hidden knots? 
Li: A knot is when feeLigs cannot be spoken, so they are stored. Shame, curiosity, loneLiess, admiration, fear, envy, anything unexpressed. Years later, the knot unties in unusual ways. 
René: Are you saying that year in America caused this? 
Li: Not caused, life is rarely one cause. But it may have planted questions. A house with four boys could intensify comparison: strength, mascuLiity, hierarchy, teasing, competition. Or perhaps he felt relief there, or fascination, or exclusion. 
René: He never said much about it. Only stories about baseball, school lockers, and noisy dinners. I thought silence meant all was well. 
Li: Silence often means a child has no language yet for what happened. Many fathers mistake quiet for peace. 
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Voice-over
A conversation containing concern, confusion, affection, and mystery. Li is thoughtful rather than dogmatic. Drawing on cultural frameworks without reducing Giles to a stereotype or a diagnosis. René’s worry centers on a loss of a son. But seeking to understand, not castigate. So Li focuses on adolescence which is sometimes accompanied by silence, identity performance, migration, family expectations, or simply delayed self-expression.